I keep people at arm’s length and call it self-protection. …correction. I keep people at arm’s length because I know exactly how close I can let them get before it costs me something. That’s not confusion. That’s math. I see the wall while I’m building it. I hand myself the bricks and step back to admire the craftsmanship. Nice work! Very secure. Emotionally inhospitable, but secure. This is not monkey see, monkey do. This isn’t ignorance dressed up as bliss. This is not, “I